At 21-years-old, I fantasized about being part of an orgy. My fantasy brought me to the altar at church asking God to forgive me for my wicked thoughts. Today I am honest about how I enjoy being part of an orgy. It is amazing to be with other like-minded adults vibing in a sea of sexual energy. In the bedroom, the living room, or in the basement taking part in an orgy with sexy people of all shapes and sizes is an experience of a lifetime.
You may wonder why I am even bringing up such a topic in the age of Covid-19? I just remember that despite this persistent virus in our world we are still human and desire to satisfy our sexual desires. Having more than one partner together for adult fun is one of the joys I love in my life.
So allow me to share with you my love and appreciation for the orgy. Forbidden and “wicked” to some, but a great way to share our love for passion in a secluded space.
A LONG HISTORY
Call it “Swingers Orgy”, “Rainbow Parties”, or “Daisy Chain” the orgy dates back to the Romans and Greeks. The orgy’s roots came not just for debauchery but on a spiritual level. The word “orgia” is Greek for “an ecstatic form of worship”.
Great writers like Joe Duncan give a more detailed background on orgies with his Medium article: The Complete History of the Sex Orgy. One of the big takeaways for me is that orgies are not for the rich or upper class. Anyone from any level of society can put together an orgy with the right people involved.
This Orgy Is Enjoyed In Front of An Adult Audience
When I first entered into the Lifestyle with my beloved, I was very nervous about being seen naked let alone being involved sexually in front of other people on any level. All that changed when I got a blow job in front of several people. Some kept talking with their friends, some got intimate with each other, but a few watched and enjoyed what we were doing.
The progression was a slow one for me and it took time to not get “stage fright” having sex in front of others. It got less and less embarrassing for me and much more pleasurable. At one club, they had a group room (of sorts) where only curtains separated each section of the bed area. They even had the nerve to put tables nearby for people to sit down to watch as couples and singles went at it. I gave it no mind because I wanted to share with my beloved our passion with each other. My biggest fear was a judgment from others. I finally learned to just focus on who you are pleasing.
I don’t have six-pack abs, but I do carry a Dad body. It may be disqualifying to some, but what I do bring to the table is my enjoyment of being sexual with others in the right setting. I don’t have to compete or perform for others, but I do focus on who is part of our group making sure we’re all having a good time. If others smile and nod, get turned on with what we are doing or are moved to join in then that is more energy to share with the crowd.
The biggest crowd we were part of involved a house party held at a place that could give Hugh Hefner fits. It was held at a two and a half storied complex complete with a basement that had a furnished recreation room. The only difference is this rec room had over 50-plus beds to handle the number of bodies playing that night. I enjoyed intimate play with six women before my body gave out. How we got there evolved throughout the evening over drinks, to the hot tub, and then to the group room.
The thing about orgies is you don’t have to be involved with everyone you see or meet. You can just be with the one you love and enjoy each other while hearing all of the other people’s reactions and orgasms along the way. I’d never thought it would be a big turn-on before, but after years in and out of clubs, you enjoy the sounds of other people having sex with passionate noises flooding the room.
The Future of Orgies
The covid-19 virus hit our nation two years ago and the few times we’ve had a bedroom with more than just we were few and far between. Thankfully, everyone who gathered gave proof of vaccination with at least 8 couples together. Having those moments together gave us hope for the future and reinvigorated our spirits. What concerns me is what happens if/when Covid-19 is contained and our new normal begins? Will we see people pick up where they left off and look for sexual adventure in large rooms with many people or will the risk be too great to attempt any large-scale meetings? I don’t know.
What I do hope for is that if you and your partner do involve yourselves in an orgy give yourself some time to talk it over and think about it before diving in.
Here are some key things to remember:
*Group sex is not for everyone. It is okay if one or both of you find the idea of being sexual in front of others–or sharing with other people–may not fit your bedroom desires.
*Get to know the host of the orgy. Make sure they supply you with everything you need to make your evening memorable (i.e. condoms, lube, trashcans, wipes, etc.). Make sure if you, your partner, or the group feels threatened, or your consent is violated, that your host will take action immediately to deal with such issues. If you don’t feel safe with your host, then you need to leave and don’t look back.
*I said earlier in this piece you don’t have to involve yourself with everyone in the room. Orgies are open spaces to be by yourself, with another, or with many other people in the room. Your adventure is up to you to decide.
*Safe Sex! Safe Sex! Safe Sex!
I can’t emphasize the need to practice safe sex, especially in a setting where you may encounter bodies you’ve never involved yourself with before. Whether you are with a set of six or sixty, being sexually healthy is a courtesy to everyone involved in the orgy.
*Never “Take One For The Team”
Tired?
Sore?
Don’t have any more energy?
Don’t feel comfortable with the crowd?
Saying “no” is important for you. If you are pressured to just “go along to get along” this is not good for you. Respecting your boundaries–by your partner and with others–is vital to making sure your health is respected.
*Room Is Everything
Any host of an orgy must make sure that there is enough space to handle the bodies on the bed. Ventilation and sound suppression (for areas that are close to other residential units) can keep trouble from knocking at your door.
*Let The Right Ones In
Having the right people with the right mindset is a very important thing when a host wants to invite couples and single people for some carnal fun. Veteran participants support those who are first-timers helping them to have over for fun. You can count on vets to start the proceedings by just simply leading the party to the space to have fun.
Have A Story To Tell
In the 2006 Independent movie “Shortbus”, the actors not only acted in the comedy, but unsimulated sex scenes by these actors (including ejaculation and penetration) were a huge draw of the movie. “Shortbus gained both praise and criticisms from critics and movie viewers alike. It even got a major look at the Cannes Film Festival along with receiving a 68% on Rotten Tomatoes.
There was an orgy scene involving some of the main characters in a New York City apartment along with many other people of all types of sexual orientation participating. Watching it flow in such a natural and organic way is something very few filmmakers capture in the industry. The camera focused on one woman(Shanti Carson) who not only was enjoying herself immensely but displayed such a natural delight when she orgasmed. The look on her face punctuated the mood and the movie. A fun fact is that scene lasted into the early morning before the director told participants they needed to wrap it up. This is what I love about orgies: the energy shared in the room is so amazing you lose any sense of time and space because it brings one of the truest forms of connectedness a human can experience.
I hope that if you do find the opportunity to become a part of an orgy go for it! Like swimming in a pool make sure you are aware of the risk, you are prepared for entry, and you have the right exit when you are done. Sadly your experience may not be part of watercooler chatting, but with the right group of people, it will be a story certainly able to raise some eyebrows.
